Stepchildren have to go through some extra struggles in life. They all handle what life throws at them a little differently. For the children who lose faith in themselves or begin questioning their own self-worth you, stepmom, can help guide them back to confidence with a boost of positive love.
When I see my little sweet pea struggling I help her remind herself of how awesome she is. I let her see me reminding myself also so she doesn’t “feel funny” talking to herself. I stand in front of the mirror in the morning right after I brush my teeth and I say, out loud, some positive self-loving affirmations. Sometimes I casually say them as I brush my hair out or put on my makeup.
For example, I might say, “I am a rockstar, I am happy, I am going to do great at work today” and my little sweet pea might say “I am funny, I helpful, I am going to do great on my spelling test today!” I repeat the confidence boosting affirmations 3 or 4 times.
Here is a list of self-loving, confidence boosting, positive affirmations you and your stepchildren can say…
1. I am a rockstar
2. I am a good friend
3. I am good listener
4. I am important
5. I am loved
6. I am happy
7. I am doing my best
8. I am going to do great on my test
9. I studied hard and will do good today
10. I am brave
11. I am proud of myself
12. I am capable of anything I put my mind to
13. I tell the truth
14 I am generous
15. I like to help others
16. I love my body just the way it is
17. I am beautiful inside and out
18. People like me for me
19. I care about other people
20. I am kind
21. I am loving
22. I am smart
23. All of my parents love me and I love them
24. It feels good to be loved
25. Today is a great day for a great day!
We also like to throw in some funny statements and make each other laugh. One day, I woke up feeling a little under the weather and I was really dreading going to work but hearing my little sweet stepdaughter say “Today is going to be a great day, I love myself, even my stinky farts” made me laugh and smile. I hugged her tight and told her that she makes everyday better and I think hearing that made her day. We both left the house with a smile and had great days.
I feel very strongly that starting the day off saying positive affirmations sets you up for a good day! I believe that you get what you give. I give my best, positive, kind self to the universe and that’s what I get back. The more love I give the more I receive.
Give it a try even if you think you found silly at fist keep going! Shout it out loud for the world to hear! You are a freaking rockstar who’s going to have a stellar day filled with happiness! Now get out there and kick butt today!
You got this mama!